What can I do to change my life? It’s a common question that everyone’s asked at one point or another. Here are some steps you can take that show you how you can change your life for the better.
We’ve all gone through tough times, confusing times and even times when you’re bored with your life. It’s easy to get discouraged, especially when you feel stuck or trapped by your circumstances. While there are some things in life that you cannot change, you always have the power to change yourself. And in changing yourself, you have the ability to change not only your life, but the lives of everyone around you for the better.
When Should I Change My Life?
There are many subtle signs that signal you to make a positive change in your life and circumstances. Here are just a few:
- You feel restless or dissatisfied with your life.
- You sense that something is missing.
- It seems as if you are merely surviving rather than living.
- You realize you hold yourself back to fit in, whether it’s a relationship, a job or your life.
- You feel frustrated, overwhelmed and irritated consistently by both little and big things in your day to day life.
- You feel as if you can’t be yourself, or that you’re not even sure who you really are anymore.
- You find yourself setting aside your dreams, desires, hopes, and happiness for someone or something else.
- You feel numb.
- You’ve lost your joy and passion in life.
- You feel as if you can’t have the life you want, for whatever reason.
These are all hints from your heart that you’re not living the life that you are capable of. Think of them as signposts along the way telling you to take a new path. By the way, if you’re reading this, you’re probably ready for a change.
How To Change Your Life For The Better
To change your life, you have to do things differently. After all, that’s what change is. But changing your life for the better comes with its own rewards built in. As you make positive changes, you’ll feel better, look better, and begin to notice how things start improving, sometimes dramatically, even in unexpected areas. By taking charge of the things in life that you can change, you reconnect to your heart, improve your confidence, and empower yourself to create the life you’ve always wanted.
Start With The Basics
The quickest and easiest way to change your life for the better is to take care of yourself, physically, mentally and emotionally. Of course, we all know that we need to practice self-care. But ask yourself, are you actually doing it?
Take Care of Your Body
Eat Healthy. Eat a healthy diet of fresh whole foods, including green leafy vegetables. Cut back on processed foods and sugars.
Drink More Water. Drink at least 8 glasses of clean, purified water each day. Keep your body hydrated.
Exercise. Exercise each day, even if it’s only a short walk or series of stretches. Add in 30 minutes of cardio three to five times a week to increase your energy, improve your mood, reduce anxiety and stress and many more benefits.
Take Care Of Your Mind
Relieve Stress. Take time each day to relax and unwind.
Practice mindfulness or meditate daily. Even five or ten minutes a day can create a noticeable difference in both relieving stress, and allowing you to reconnect with your inner self.
Learn something new. Choose anything that interests you, anything you would like to learn more about. Set aside a small block of time each day to study it with effort, focus and concentration.
Take Care Of Yourself Emotionally
Notice your thoughts. What do you say to yourself on a regular basis? Become aware of negative thought patterns and beliefs that prevent you from becoming the person and living the life you desire.
Learn to accept and experience your emotions. Emotions are part of being human. They’re not right or wrong, but they are clues to what’s important to you and what your soul needs to thrive.
Learn to love yourself. Sometimes it seems like this is the hardest step of all. But truly, you are capable of great love. Think of all of the people and things that you love. Now add yourself to that list. Learning to love yourself may seem awkward at first, but it gets easier with practice.
Connect With Your True Self
In this digital age, it’s more important than ever to become aware of the outside influences on your thoughts and emotional well-being. The more you are caught up in the outside noise, the easier it becomes to lose connection to yourself.
Get to Know Yourself
Take the time to get to know yourself. What are your strengths and your weaknesses? What excites you? What brings you joy? What makes you truly feel alive?
Ask yourself these questions and listen for your answers. You may surprise yourself. As your life changes, your answers will change. Many times feeling stuck in a rut is the result of thinking you have to be the person you used to be instead of becoming the person you need to be now.
What’s your Cinderella plan? Get clear on what you want your life to look like. If you were to wake up tomorrow morning and found yourself living the life you’ve always wanted, what would that look like? What are the broad strokes? What are the details?
Embrace What You Have Now. Look over your Cinderella plan. How much of that is already in your life right now? What is available to you right now that perhaps you’ve been too busy or distracted to enjoy? Make room for it and take the time to do it.
Enjoy and appreciate your life right now. By living your life fully and joyfully in the present, you are already changing your future.
Change Your Routines and Habits
In order to change yourself, you must change your thoughts, your feelings and your actions. In other words, just about everything. But it’s not as hard as you may think. If you work on changing just two of the three, then the other will fall into place. For example, if you make a decision to do something, and start taking practical steps to accomplish it, your feelings will catch up. Or you discover and fall in love with a new interest, and determine in your mind that you can do it, opportunities to take action will open up to you.
Develop Discipline. Discipline, even the word is enough to make most of us cringe. But the best definition of discipline comes from the Cambridge Dictionary. It states that discipline is, “the ability to make yourself do something, even if it is difficult, so that you can achieve a goal.” In the best sense, think of discipline as a tool you can use to create your desired result. It also gives you the strength to push past your perceived limitations and become more than you ever thought you could be.
Try the 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins. It only takes 5 seconds to change your life. In 5 seconds, you can learn to take action on your ideas before you talk yourself out of them.
Actively Create The Life You Want
In order to change your life for the better, you need to actively create the life you want. Otherwise, you’re only going to get more of what you’ve already gotten. And it doesn’t have to be hard. The key is in taking consistent steps that lead you into the future you’ve chosen.
Create a Game Plan. Once you know what you want your life to be, create a plan to get there. Write down the major steps that you need to take to get from where you are to where you want to be. If that seems a bit overwhelming to you, try this little trick. Start from the end result and work back. If you’re not sure of the logical progression of steps, then just write down all the possible steps you can think of on index cards then arrange them into a possible game plan.
Pick One Thing To Start With. While it’s tempting to want to change everything at once, narrow it down to just one. When you try to do several things at once, it drains away your energy and your focus. You waste precious resources, both mentally, emotionally, and it takes away from the projects themselves. Instead, focus on one goal or project at a time. And keep it short. Break it down into a reasonable goal that can be completed within a short window of 4-6 weeks.
Actively do things today that will improve your life tomorrow. Each day, make it a point to do something to get you closer to your goal. Even a small step daily is progress. Small steps taken consistently can move you further ahead than you could ever imagine. Focus on improving your future. Do something today that will make your tomorrow better.